Yeah, in terms of like watching or listening to something you're not supposed to; it was funny, a couple of guys at work who I'm friends with, we were chatting about growing up with conservative Christian parents. And I mean, none of us like rebelled in like, any kind of crazy way, but we talked about like kind of, we all had like the one friend whose house you would go over to and, like, watch the stuff you weren't allowed to watch at home or listen to stuff you weren't allowed to listen to. And, and we all had like music that we would kind of sneakily listen to that our parents wouldn't approve of. And it's funny 'cause theirs were like -- gosh, I can't even remember, but way more intense than mine. Mine was Alanis Morissette. But I have this distinct memory of -- I bought my best friend in sixth grade that album, that Alanis Morissette album, maybe seventh grade, and -- she, 'cause she asked for it, and she had a party. She opened that, whatever. And then after the party, I spent the night, and her mom said, like, after everyone left her mom said, "I don't know who gave you that, but we are returning it!" Like she was so mad, and unfortunately she had already opened it, and I gave it to her, so I'm sure -- well, I know she looked down on me after that, but she couldn't return it, so we listened to it.

There was a quote that I read recently from the comedian Rob Delaney, who, if I'm not mistaken, I think lost a child? I might be, I might be confusing people, but I think he may have lost a child to cancer. And someone asked him about parenthood, and he kind of said, like, you know, the things that are bad about parenthood are all things you've experienced before to some degree. Obviously, maybe not to the extent you experience them when you're in the thick of it but like sleep deprivation, being sick, being impatient, being overwhelmed. Like for most people, you know -- putting aside more intense cases of like postpartum depression, postpartum psychosis, all that -- like just the baseline normal hardness, they're all like a variant of things you've experienced. But he said the things that are good are totally new. Like you've never had this little person look at you and need you, you've never seen this little person learn these things, and it's just such an intense thing that's positive, and I try to think about that too. Like yeah, it's hard when you're up every couple hours, it's hard when the baby is crying and colicky and you can't find ways to comfort them in that moment. And it's fleeting, and the, the positive thing like -- this is so small, but the other day, my daughter knocked over her cousin and he started crying and he ran into the other room to narc on her. And my daughter came out unprompted and said, "Hey, I'm sorry." And it was just a small thing, but I was like, "Man. That's so cool." Like, that's so cool that she did that on her own.  And like, I don't know, there's so many moments like that, where you're just like, oh yeah, they're like this fully independent thing. Like, I can't force her. I can try to bestow things upon her, teach her things for sure. But like ultimately she made that choice to come out and say sorry. She could have been like, you know, "Sorry bro.” Like, “You snooze, you lose.” Whatever, like, “You got hurt, it's on you." But she didn't and like, that's so cool and it's just cool to like learn who your kids are. 

I remember a friend -- well, kinda friend of a friend, just a guy that was a part of my friend group a long time ago -- who, I didn't know it at the time, but I found out a little bit later that he was an incessant liar and would just make up stories, constantly. He -- I have no idea how much of this is true -- he told me that he worked at the Van Andel Arena the big, like, arena theater venue in our town, and that he like would set up for concerts and shows and stuff and had to like go up into the rafters and like, hang from a harness, like with a harness on like you know, pulley systems and like move around to like plug in speakers and do all these really cool sorts of setup work things. But like way up high in the facility, which sounded really cool. I -- maybe he did, maybe he didn't. I dunno. But then because of that, he would say things that he saw or like people that he said he would see behind the scenes. And I remember him saying like he saw The Rock ‘cause he was at, I don't know what, maybe this is back in early 2000, so probably like he was a wrestler coming for like WWE or whatever at the arena. And he, and he convinced me, I mean, at the time -- this is like pre-internet days or like, when early in the internet days, where you like didn't have your phone to Google things, and so people tell you stuff and you just believe them unless you have real good evidence for not believing them -- and he told me that The Rock was short like, five feet tall short, and that all of it's just like camera trick angles and stuff that make him look like this huge dude on the screen, but he's actually not that big. And at the time I was like, "Oh, huh, no kidding. That's funny." I didn't watch WWE. I didn't know anything about wrestling at all, or The Rock for that matter. So I had no real basis for questioning that as being fact, and just being like, "Huh, okay, no kidding. Weird. Why wouldn't they just you know, tell him he's too short to be a…

Two days ago, we -- ‘cause we had just moved, so I'm still sorting and putting things away. The kitty was in the living room with us as we were sorting things out. My daughter had put fish on her iPad to try to keep the kitty entertained. And the cat wasn't paying too much attention, so I said, "Birds. Put birds on." So we put birds on, put the iPad on full screen, the birds, hear the chirping. .And all of a sudden, the cat is intensely interested ‘cause she hears the chirping, she sees the birds, and she's looking behind the iPad to see where the birds are. But the intensity on her face and in her eyes... Like she was ready to pounce. But it wasn't real birds, it was just birds on the iPad, but it still kept her in rapt attention for a long time. She just watched and watched. This was Baby. We've done that with Friday. Keeping Friday entertained by having her watch birds on the iPad. They think it's real.

So I do have another example maybe of sort of meeting someone in real life that I knew on social media. So there's somebody who I know who works in an agency that my office works with. I have known who this person was for years. And then when I found them on Bluesky and started following them I thought, "Oh that's like really fun. I can sort of get to know another side of her." So anyway, what I was getting at is a couple weeks ago, I had a work question that I needed to ask her, and I asked if she could like, could we -- I set up a zoom and she would jump on, and I was so excited to finally get a chance to talk to her face to face. I felt, I kinda felt like we had this fun connection because we do have the occasional social media, you know, interactions. And you know I follow her, she follows me, whatever, I felt, I felt like we were buds in a way. And she was strangely stiff and formal. It really -- I was really taken aback. Now, part of it might have been -- I was -- I asked for the meeting and she said, "Sure" and was ready to jump on right away and I actually wasn't prepared, and so I ended up asking my question -- I think I just like, basically, like vomited words at her. I didn't have a well-formed question, I didn't have it clearly laid out, like why I was calling and what the situation was. If I’d taken a little more time, I could have gotten there, but instead I just kinda went in cold. That may have been part of it. But I don't know.  But I did feel kind of deflated about it. I was like, "Oh man, I thought we'd really -- we had this rapport." And I just had none of that when we, when we met. And I thought, and you know, we met on Zoom. And then of course maybe it's also that she -- maybe she was kind of thinking the same thing, but she was thinking about, all right, how do I calibrate -- recalibrate this and make sure that I am professional on this call, and she sort of maybe went too far in the other…